The Pain of Abuse Destroys the Human Spirit

Few really understand the depths of pain that abused children suffer.

Because of the abuse they will suffer, there are many children who are destined to live a life of incarceration behind the walls of a prison, or a mental institution.

There is something about these people that most of us do not realize-these are a tortured people. It is hard for us, the "unabused", to comprehend the depths of their suffering.

A direct quote from an article back in August of 1988 is as follows, "Children are victims in some of the most heinous crimes that make their way through San Bernardino County's criminal courts."

The more vicious the abuse, the more warped the victim becomes.

Babies aren't born serial killers. Imagine the work it takes to ruin a person's life and wreck them forever. The human spirit does not die easily. It takes a lot of effort to destroy who a person would have been, and instead create a monster. The abuser must torment and hurt that child almost every day to keep them intimidated. Think of what the child must go through-the sick anticipation.

Imagine a hurt so bad that it can never heal. Imagine dragging through life with a terrible wound that, at times, drives you mad. I worked for the California Department of Mental Health, at Patton State Hospital, for a long time. I have seen how it is for them-these cripples who were beaten into submission. They will spend their miserable lives as liabilities to society-a life ruined forever because of the torment they suffered as children. Obviously, they could hurt a lot of innocent people along the way.

The covert abuser-who often isn't caught-is another matter. Their whole lives are a lie. You probably know one or two. They must be ever vigilant and can never rest. Because of their early traumatic childhood abuse, their programming, they must hurt those they are closest to. This is how abuse perpetuates itself. The pain these people manifest is but a fraction of the pain they endure. They weren't born criminals. They are helpless against their early traumatic childhood experiences.

Imagine how angry and frustrated you are on your worst day. Now imagine the things you might say or do, that you would later regret. Now, multiply the pain by tens, hundreds, or thousands. Now you know the pain suffered by a person who was terribly abused. They are, beyond all shadow of doubt, the most miserable people in the world.

If you knew the horrible things that have been done to abused children, you'd know that the torture in Nazi concentration camps would be comparable to what some of these children go through.

Of significant interest: following is ample documentation that proves Adolf Hitler, Joseph Stalin, and Saddam Hussein were all victims of abusive childhoods. One wonders what part their early "programming" played in their decisions as world leaders? What really motivated their behaviors?

Adolf Hitler

From the website http://abelard.org/hitler/hitler/htm

"…As with isolated peasant societies around the world, the area was heavily inbred, with its share of genetic problems (6). Hitler's mother had a hunchbacked sister and a first cousin was likewise affected. Adolf's sister Paula has been described as mentally defective, but that may be a little harsh(7)."

"…It is likely that Alois (Adolf Hitler's father) was violent to the mother and child, especially after his regular sessions down the local tavern, to the extent that Alois once feared that he had killed the boy…"

"…Hitler is known to have delighted in shooting rats from his pre-teens(2). He is recorded as thrashing a dog in order to impress a girl friend in 1926…"

From the website http://remember.org/guide/Facts.root.hitler.html

"…While there is anecdotal evidence that Adolf's father regularly beat him during his childhood…"

From the website http://www.historyplace.com/worldwar2/riseofhitler/boyhood/htm

The oldest boy, Alois Jr., 13, bore the brunt of his father's discontent, including harsh words and occasional beatings. A year later, at age 14, young Alois had enough of this treatment and ran away from home, never to see his father again. This put young Adolf, age 7, next in line for the same treatment.

From the website: http://www.auschwitz.dk/Paula/htm

"…Their father, Alois, was a hard, conscientious Customs Official, punctilious to a fault with a difficult temper that flared with no apparent provocation. Paula (Adolf Hitler's younger sister) later recalled how Adolf bore the brunt of the father's discipline: 'Adolf challenged my father to extreme harshness and got his sound thrashing every day. He was a scrubby little rogue, and all attempts of his father to thrash him for his rudeness and to cause him…"

Joseph Stalin

From the website: http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joseph_Stalin

"…Born in Gori, Georgia to illiterate peasant parents (who had been serfs at birth), his harsh spirit has been blamed by some on severe beatings by his father, inspiring vengeful feelings towards anyone in a position to wield power over him…"

From the website: http://www.chagala.com/russia/stalin_outline.htm

"…His father (Joseph Stalin) was an illiterate drunk who brutishly beat both young Joseph and his mother. During a particularly bad beating episode endured by his mother, Joseph threw a knife at his father's head and barely missed…"

"…It is said that years after being beaten by his father, that Joseph developed a strange fascination with the idea of pain and showed no compassion or love for animals or other humans…"

From the website: http://search.britannica.com

"…The drunken father savagely beat his son…"

From the website: http://www.washingtonpost.com

"…N. Kipshidze remembered stories she told him: 'One day when his father was drunk he picked him up and threw him violently to the floor. There was blood in the boy's urine for days afterwards.' The big fistfights with no holds barred-that was what little Soso (the young child, Stalin) saw from the day he was born…"

"…Thus was he described by 112-year-old Hana Moshiashvili, a Georgian Jewish woman, once a friend of Keke, who emigrated to Israel in 1972. 'His mother was head of the family now, and the fist which had subdued his father was now applied to the upbringing of their son. She beat him unmercifully for disobedience.'"

Saddam Hussein

From the website: http://www.csmonitor.com/2003/02060/p01s04-woiq.html

"…Those secrets may rest in Hussein's brass-knuckled - and sometimes white-knuckled - history. Born dirt-poor and unwanted in a Tikrit backwater village, Hussein was able to violently claw his way out of an abused childhood to the top of the ruling Baath Party…"

From the website: http://www.megastories.com/iraq/family/saddam.html

"…Like many others later infected with lust for power, Saddam was abused and excluded at home…"

From the website: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/middle_east/2480591.stm

"…As is often the case in psychological diagnosis, Dr. Post thinks that the seeds of Saddam's present character and choice of actions lie in his traumatic childhood, as he explained to the BBC…"

"…His father died during his infancy and his mother handed the boy over to her brother Khayrallah for care until she again married - this time to a man who reputedly abused Saddam."

"This mix of abandonment and abuse took its toll and created in Saddam what Dr. Post says is referred to in psychological terms as 'his wounded self'…"

"…This cultivation of grandiose fantasy turned him into a 'a malignant narcissist,' Dr. Post says…"

From the website: http://www.iraqfoundation.org/news/2003/ajan/27_saddam.html

"Like other dictators who wrote bloody chapters in 20th-century history, Mr. Hussein was primed for violence by early childhood. Born into the murderous clan culture of a village that lived off piracy on the Tigris River, he was harshly beaten by a brutal stepfather…" #28

From the website: http://abcnews.go.com/sections/nightline/World/saddam_profiler_030225.html

"…Post…'One cannot imagine a worse entrance into this life than Saddam had,' he said…"
"…Citing an account given by the family's neighbors, Post said she became 'gravely depressed' and repeatedly tried to commit suicide and to abort the pregnancy. When Saddam was born, she did not even want to look at him, Post said…"
"…According to Post, Saddam's new stepfather was psychologically and physically abusive to him…"

Like hot metal on a blacksmith's anvil, Hitler, Stalin, and Hussein were hammered and beaten into the monsters who killed millions-and had mercy towards none.